John Mayer's Real Estate Blog: A Celebration of Life in Canada

A Celebration of Life in Canada

As many of you already know, my father passed away in Canada on Jan. 29, 2011 at 87. My wife and I flew to Toronto from Orlando for a celebration of his life on Feb 4th. It was quite a departure from the ocean breezes we are used to with a blizzard the day before and temps in the 20's F. I jokingly told my old man to hang in there and not to go anywhere until spring but he wouldn't listen. When it's your time, it's your time, plain and simple. I love you anyway Dad! :-) Below is a link to my memorial web page for my mother and father with photos, my tribute, condolences and stories. The world was truly a better place with their unconditional love in it and I will miss them dearly.

Memorial Tribute to my Parents

John & Anne in Tillsonburg

My father bought this 2 piece heart shaped urn when Mom passed away in 2007 and now they are both together again. True love never dies!

Heart Shaped Urn

The Abominable Porch Men. Nephew Steven and my brothers and I toasting Dad with a beer and a brandy. BRRR! Dad would have approved!

Pickering snow men

My brother Dan's supportive neighbors and brother Larry on the right. Dad used to sit with them on the front porch and "trade opinions".

Listowell Neighbors Dan's Street

Memorial Tribute to my Parents

Ann Landers once said, “Inside every eighty-year-old is a thirty-five-year-old asking, ‘What (the hell) happened?’” My father had a young, alert and inquisitive mind even though his body finally failed him. He always tried to learn new things, expand his knowledge and would enter a debate about anything that he was passionate about. Dad never hesitated to tell you what he thought. He was a rabble rouser and never missed an opportunity to push your buttons with a smile on his face. 

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Comment balloon 25 commentsJohn Mayer • February 09 2011 10:34PM

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John,

I am so sorry to hear about the reason for your trip to Toronto. 

May the memories of your dad give you comfort in this difficult time.

Ann Hayden

Posted by Ann Hayden 636-399-7544, SelectAnn.com (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Select Properties-St. Louis Missouri) over 9 years ago

Thanks Ann - My Dad was a fighter but his body just finally gave out on him.

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

John, my condolences to you and your family. The heart shaped urn is beautiful! - And unique - I've never seen one like it.

Posted by Maria Morton, Kansas City Real Estate 816-560-3758 (Platinum Realty) over 9 years ago

Hi John... I am so sorry to learn of your loss.  I will keep you in my prayers during these difficult days.

Posted by Steve Shatsky over 9 years ago

Maria - I have never seen one before either. My Dad was just drawn to this urn when he saw it.

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

Thank you Steve - Going back home after losing your Dad is a difficult time for anyone. I'm just thankful we have a strong and supportive family, snow shovels and all!

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

John - I am sorry to learn about the loss of your father. It is always difficult losing very close family member. You dad now watching us from haven.

Posted by John Pusa, Your All Time Realtor With Exceptional Service (Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest) over 9 years ago

John - My Dad was a good man and I know his spirit surrounds his family right now.

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

John,

I took this memorial blog for your dad real hard. It's the same day my husband died when he was 37 years old. I thought about writing a blog that day in his memory but changed my mind. I spent this day, January 29, 2011 in mourning. I had my own annual grief day.

Yours is appropriate. Timely. Well done and I'm sure your dad is equally proud of you.

My deepest condolences to you John. I know this was hard for you, but you're right, he would approve. Also, that heart shaped urn is really something. I've never seen anything like that before. The heart is now complete. They are together.

It's good to know that he had good friends. Friends really help at a time like this. I'm sure you will continue to hear good stories and share them as you did on the front porch with friends for many years to come.

I wish you peace John. Both of my parents are deceased and it hit me harder when mom followed my dad shortly after he died. She died on Mothers Day. He died the day after Thanksgiving. Having no parents on earth is difficult and you have to grieve. But as an AR friend, I'm telling you, they wouldn't want you to live your life in sadness. They are together now and that is how it should be. Keep the good memories alive and stay strong and healthy. They would want that for you.

Posted by Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP, Selling Homes Changing Lives (DFW FINE PROPERTIES) over 9 years ago

Patricia - You are right, of course and I share your pain.  To lose your husband at such an early age is a tragedy. When we lose both of our parents, there is a void and the sadness can be overwhelming. I choose to celebrate my parent's lives and for me, they have never left. They are in my heart and will live on in my mind as long as I draw breath. The good times, family recipes, good advice and love will be passed down to my Grandchildren and their children. Life goes on!

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

John, your post touched my heart so much.  I am blessed to still have both my folks, 81 and 82, and I treasure every mintue I have with them. The heart shaped urn really did me in.

Bless you and your family for a great tribute and for sharing it with us.

Posted by Cheryl Campbell, Wasilla Alaska Realtor (Jack White Real Estate) over 9 years ago

Thank you Cheryl - Yes, cherish every minute! You never know when they will be taken from you. My Dad was supposed to have gone in April, 2010 but he made it through another 9 months. He was tough!

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

So sorry John, but you have beautiful memories. Your parents are proud of your tribute we are sure. Beautiful urn and very unique, what a fantastic sentiment! Sorry also that you had to come up here during our 'cold spell' glad to see you had a parka and shovel! You are a true Canadian though, we see you could still shovel and drink beer LOL!  

Posted by Al & Peggy Cunningham, Brokers, Our Family Wants To Help Your Family! (RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage) over 9 years ago

Sorry for your loss, John. Great photos and tribute to your Dad.

Posted by Toni Weidman, 20+ Years Selling Homes in New Port Richey, FL (Sailwinds Realty) over 9 years ago

John,

There are necessary losses and losses we can't explain. I think choosing that heart urn was a wonderful example of love between a man and a woman. Love is trusting. Life experiences, especially taught to us by our parents makes us stronger and courageous.

You are lucky to have been born into a home where there were loving parents and I know you are a fine example to your children and grandchildren.

Peace...

Posted by Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP, Selling Homes Changing Lives (DFW FINE PROPERTIES) over 9 years ago

John - That is a very touching tribute to your father!  Loss of a loved one is always a difficult thing to endure.  The heart shaped urn, and especially the way it entwines is really special.  I share Patricia's comment about being fortunate enough to have been born into a home where there were loving parents.  That is one of the greatest gifts one can receive.

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) over 9 years ago

Al and Peggy - Snow shoveling and drinking beer at the same time is like riding a bicycle. You never forget! Thank you for your kind words.

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

Toni - Thank you so much!

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

Thank you again Patricia. I can tell you were raised right and are filled with love and compassion.

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

Myrl - A loving home is a precious thing these days with single parent families on the rise. Mom and Dad had their share of "disagreements" but they made a point out of never going to bed angry. We got spanked when we needed it and did our chores and homework before we went out to play. We climbed our favorite apple tree and surveyed our domain from the highest branches. Dad would help us build snow forts and stockpile snowballs. But most of all, we have our cherished memories of the Holidays with Bing Crosby's White Christmas playing all through the day. Those were very special times!

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

John..I am so sorry ..It is so hard to lose a parent ..My heart goes out to you

HelpfulHannah

Posted by Hannah Williams, Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-953-8818 (Re/Max Eastern inc.) over 9 years ago

John  the heart shaped urn says it all.  As I told you before you are blessed to have had them as your parents

Posted by Karen Kruschka, - "My Experience Isn't Expensive - It's PRICELESS" (RE/MAX Executives) over 9 years ago

Thank you Hannah - I'll miss the "politically incorrect" conversations with my Dad :-)

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

 

Karen - I put on a polka CD today and when I closed my eyes, I was dancing with Mom at St. Pat’s German Hall like I always did when there was a wedding. I miss them both and it’s probably just sinking in that they are gone forever.

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

Thank you so much Sandy. I just re-read all of these comments and started to tear up again.

Posted by John Mayer, Your Beach Area Expert (Oikos Realty, Cape Canaveral, Cocoa Beach Florida) over 9 years ago

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