John Mayer's Real Estate Blog: Hugs and Handshakes

Hugs and Handshakes


Have hugs replaced handshakes as the greeting of choice? Since 2006, hugs have become increasingly popular, with President Barack Obama and his family leading the way. Does this mean that you should be giving new clients a big bear hug after signing the contract? Maybe. But if you go this route, be careful. Time magazine divides public hugs into three types. They are: Full frontal: Total body, heart-felt embrace for friends and family. Conservative: No contact below the shoulders. It's reserved for the office and bad dates. Hip-Hop Hug: The manly hug. Shake hands with the right and hug with the left. Need more? Give him two slaps on the back.

The Japanese have it right. Bowing eliminates the need to touch anyone you don't really know and won't make you sick with someone else's flu bug.

On the other hand, hugs can be very rewarding and make you feel better in just seconds!


"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away." George Carlin

Comment balloon 3 commentsJohn Mayer • February 22 2009 12:02AM


It all depends on who the hugger and the huggees are. For your huggees - Full frontal is the way to go!  They look delicious.  Enjoy!

Posted by Lora "Leah" Stern 914-772-4528, Real Estate Salesperson (Coldwell Banker, 170 N Main Street, New City NY 10956) over 11 years ago

Hugs are for family and friends!  I only hug if my client initiates it and then I reserve the rest of them for my kids and hubby.  There is nothing worse that someone hugging you when you do not want it and some clients can be completely turned off by it.  I like the bowing idea myself.

Posted by Bruce & Sandy Soli, Tahoe Lifestyle Experts (Sierra Sotheby's International Realty) over 11 years ago

John - This make me laugh to think of hugging some of my clients. Many would embrace it, but some.... my goodness, I would be out begging for dinner. A fun thought. I think the Chinese have it right when it comes to business. A simple bow will do. Make it a great day - Cute girls....

Posted by Gwenn Tanvas, The Mortgage Gal, 920.267.7891~ SMART - INNOVATIVE (NEXA Mortgage LLC an Equal Housing Lender NMLS # 1660690) over 11 years ago